Let’s try something… DO NOT, I really mean it, DO NOT … think of a RED CAR! What just happened in your head? Were you able to not picture a red car? Did you think of one and then try to hide it away?
Well, because of the way our brains work we don’t process negative words until we have the positive in mind first. Also, our brains just love either still or moving pictures much more than concepts.
As a parent many of us and said over and over things like, “Don’t jump on the couch!”, “Don’t touch the hot stove!”, “Don’t run into the street!” Unfortunately, their brains only hear what their minds can make a picture of, “Jump on the couch!”, “Touch the hot stove!”, “Run into the street!”. Instead we need to state what we want them to do, not what we don’t want them to do.
“You can only jump on the trampoline!”, “You can touch just the cool counters in the kitchen!”, “You can only play in the yard!”
The same goes for how we talk to ourselves. It does not help to say things like, “I don’t ever want to make that mistake again!” and “Don’t be an idiot in front of the boss today!” I think you might be getting the idea. Always talk with yourself and others in the positive and not in the negatives. Please don’t share this article with your friends to help them!
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